She is verbally abused, emotionally abused, sexually abused, and physically abused.
That is not in question.
Still, the idea of "abuse"-particularly physical child abuse-is still a subject of controversy.
Some parents swear that spanking is an acceptable form of discipline.
Others swear it is not.
Where is the line? What constitutes abuse?
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Abuse is the overall mistreatment of someone. If we're talking the topic of should a child be beaten?
I fully believe they should depending on their habits. If they're inherently mischievous and don't listen. Cause anarchy and problems with others, they should be put in line, fine tuned if you will with a few swings of a belt.
Abuse is beating your child. A slap here and there from time to time due to a child's moronic behavior is totally reasonable. However, beating your child after clearly getting your point across is retarded. Also, degrading your child with words is also abuse. A child has every right to be told that they have done good, look pretty, whatever. There is no need to contradict the hopeful thoughts of a child. If you do, you need a hug.
I agree with both you guys. Children, of course like us when we were younger need to be put in their place when they get out of control, but most adults today take it to far and literally hurt their children for the heck of it, verbally and physically. When ever things get out of control, that would be abuse, like someone abusing their rights, like in the sense of freedom of speech. True we all have the right to speak aloud of anything we please, but most people take it too far as to swear in front of children, shout racial slurs directed at certain people, and speak of many other things that are just downright inappropriate.
abuse is when someone is spoken to and or treated with cruelty and violence.
Personally, having lived through a childhood were physical discipline was enforced. I believe that discipline should be enforced but not in a physical way. When a child is beaten it is supposed to fear getting another beating and because no one would like another beating he or she would not do what he did to ''deserve'' a beating. After a period of time if the child does not simply become immune to beatings. it will simply not care.
There is a very thin line between physical discipline and physical abuse.
When parents beat their children they say is it to ''teach you a lesson''. But as i saw it. It is more about rage. Parents do not know any other way of trying to discipline there child. so they just let what ever comes to mind go. I can say that i have been ''disciplined'' with every household appliance, and what comes along with physical ''discipline'' is verbal abuse. The problem is that rage gets a hole on parents when they are ''disciplining'' their child. When rage gets a hold things come out that a parent would never really tell their child.
I believe discipline should be used but such as grounding, limitations on television, phone use, any other joys that he or she will miss if taken away.
As an individual of hispanic culture the thin line between abuse and an occasional slap on the back of the head is hard to distinguish.There are stories adults in my family tell me where there mother or father gave them beat downs because of something wrong they did.someone of these adults were off the hook as children and seemed to deserve it.
In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with a slap. this is because there are some children who are over the top and disrespectful.
i see these types of kids or teenagers everyday and shake my head thinking "my mom would have slapped the crap out of me". there are some kids who need this. but you cannt this too far. a parent should not make a flying saucer out of a kitchen plate. nor should they break out the belts or wires and start beating their kids.this is abuse. when a child starts bleeding or gets bruises its way too much.
im straddling the fence. dont put your child in the hospital or send them to school with marks all over their body.but when i did i lied or talked back and my mom slapped me on the mouth. i never did it again...
instilling fear isnt the goal.instilling respect is.
personally as a child for me to gain respect i had to be shown whos boss...but not abused.
sorry about the incorrections.
i forgot to read it till after the fact and i dont know how to delete it to redo it.
I AGREE WITH JAMAR ABUSE IS JUST BASICALLY MISTREATEMENT WETHER VERBAL OR PHYSICAL IT CAN CHANGE ONES LIFE.
I BELIEVE THAT ABUSE IS A DISEASE THAT IS PAST DOWN FROM FAMILY IN A WAY. USUALLY CHILDREN ARE BEATEN AND ABUSED BECAUSE THERE PARENTS WERE ABUSED IN THERE CHILDHOOD. ABUSE IS SOMETHING THAT IS VERY SERIOUS AND ALSO CAN BE TRIGGERED BY SOMEONE FEELING VERY BAD ABOUT THEMSELF.
i think that love constitutes abuse.
Most people who love each other always happen to use their hands because of something that happened that moment. For example, Rhianna and Chris Brown, Bobby & Whitney!
Even though some say that it is reasonable for abuse to come through, i personally think that abuse is horrible and that it should be stopped. True, that people may do moronic things and for that their punishment is to be beaten or so but, (verbal and physical) abuse can lead to death. I've seen on the news sometimes that children or young adults are killed from physical abuse or suicide because of the abuse they've been put through. What I am trying to say is that abuse can lead many people into pressure which can cause them to commit suicide or other results.
On the other hand, parents, or others, can just slap the child but not beat them up with fist, sticks, belts, and other nonsense weapons to beat the kid. I think that there should be an amendment for no abuse that goes past slapping or anything else.
I have no clue what I'm saying for if this makes sense haha =]
I agree with most people...but I think that its something a person need to do because of their feelings towards themselves. Abuse is hurting someone in a harmful way or just not treating them with proper care.But by hurting a child or treating them in a bad because you are not happy with yourself is just wrong.There is nothing wrong with beating your child to teach them a lesson but its not right to beat them with no purpose. I agree with guillermo when he said that"beating your child to get a point across",because most children dont listen but if the child understands tha concept wats the purpose of beatin them.
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To me abuse is beating someone that you are suppose to love for no reason.But as said abuse can be physically, emotionally and mentally.
Abuse can be whatever way a person recieves it. That can be mentally physically and emotionally but still all play a role in abuse. Abuse has no limits much like people and the littlest things can contribute to being classified as abuse. Abuse is something that most people may believe they go through and it is very possible from ones point of view but, that means there is no room for abuse to be catergorized as something that no one has felt.
i think it depends on how u beat the child n with wat you use it cant be an object that may in fact harm the child any ferther then a little welp or bruise
then again you coulda also abuse a child verbaly, i dont condone vilance so i dont find any abuse right
I agree with Jamar. Abuse is the overall mistreatment of someone. It can be physical and verbal.
Now when we talk about children getting beaten, that right there is like 50/50 to me. I have been beaten by my mother when I was younger and I never found it abusive because that is how a lot of children I know was being brought up. Parents beat their children when they are doing something wrong. Obviously the child deserved it because yelling wont simply do anything to change the child's behavior. Sometimes you have to throw in that extra slap on the hand or on the behind to make the child stop what they are doing.
But then again I think it is wrong for parents to beat their children. Sometimes parents do it out of spite.
Everyone is brought up differently. I would not want to beat my children because I think there are other ways that your child can stop behaving the way they are.
abuse happens everyday....its up to the person tht is being abused to take control of what the outcome is going to be....whats ms russ email?
what constitutes abuse is someone who has been treated bad in the past. For example if a son sees his father beating his mother they think it's the right thing to do and they start to abuse their loved ones. It can also happen if someone is not comfortable with themselves they beat up others to make themselves feel better.
word i agree with faith...things tht happen in the past affects wat u do in the future...but tht person has to control their actions and not take it out on someone else because it makes them feel better
Abuse is when someone is physically or verbally attacked. I agree with Jamar's statement when he wrote abuse is the overall mistreatment of someone. People know that they are abused if they did something wrong. I also agrre with dario's statement when he wrote discipline should be used such as grounding, limitations on television, phone use and other joys that he or she will miss if taken away.
I believe that once a child is beaten, then the boarder line beginns to form. the more you hit the child, the closer the line comes towards you. Verbal abuse we probably hear everyday but cannot be brought up in the courtroom in comparison to physical abuse. Most of the time we really cant tell if a child is being beaten in their own home unless they tell u or u live with them. I heard on the radio one day not to beat your child out of nowhere, that u should have a reason for why ur beating them. Now Spanking ur child would be to pop them on the hand cuz they did something that they shouldnt have done.it all depends on the parent/guardian's attitude towards the child is. People are supposed to love their child and put them in their place when needed, not turn them into punching bags.
I believe that abuse is when someone is unfairly mistreated and they do not have the strength to protect themselves. In some circumstances abusers think that the abuse is deserved by the person being abused. Even though sometimes that may seem like the case no person deserves to be mistreated.
Spanking is just something that most parents use with their children to "teach them a lesson". What most of them don't realize is that in some ways it will teach them not to do it again but they don't really know why they shouldn't do it again. The line gets drawn when there are actual markings and bruises on the person being beaten. That is definitely going too far.
I cannot really tell what abuse is. Like I know that your husband shouldnt beat you and you shouldnt deliberately beat your children...there's a line you cross when you do that. to me it is not that Pecola is abused, I feel the household is to blame. I know what it is like to see your parents fight or even to have to put hands on a parent..but some people just dont have the stomach for it or to even put up with all that. I for one do. Pecola does not. So then I go back to the original question of what is abuse? I am not abused because if anythign i fight back. So Pecola is abused because she cant fight back? Victims get abused and fighters get punished?
commenting on mookies response.
in many case love can lead to abuse.but that doesnt make it right.
if you love someone you dont beat the crap out of them to show it.
though when my mom smacked me around alittle when i was younger....it WAS out of love. because she wanted me to become a good person...but she didnt beat the crap out of me...
KNOWING THAT A PERSON CAN GET AWAY WITH ANYTHING CONSTITUTES VIOLENCE. FOR EXAMPLE IF I KNOW A PERSON WILL NOT TELL IF IM ABUSING THEM OR ANY OTHER TYPE OF HARM, ILL KEEP GOING. DUHH. SPEAKING HYPATHECTICALLY LOLL.
Did we just all agree again? For the most part anyways?
Abuse can be either physical mental verbal or whatever !. so in a sense i STRONGLY disagree with Guillermo. Children can go through abuse which ultimately leaves them to be an adult knowing no other way to be treated.
In this sense pecola has abused herself..making her believe that she is ugly, that nobody wont play with her plus more....so yea thats abuse =)
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